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If you read my last article about why you should be a mentor to someone, then you may be wondering how you can actually go about doing it. What can you do to help another business owner out from time to time?
Today I’m going to share 4 things you need to keep in mind when mentoring someone through a business idea so that you can be effective in truly helping them.
1. Agree
When you’re mentoring someone, they’re going to come to you with ideas & they’re going to want your opinion on those ideas. In order to be effective at helping them you need to agree with them. Let me explain.
You’re not always going to think their idea is great, but you’re there to help them grow & learn. If you’re constantly telling them their ideas won’t work or that a different idea would be better, you’re not really helping them.
You want to build confidence in them. You want them to learn to work things out on their own with only a little guidance from you. You’re there to ask the questions they haven’t thought of. If their idea isn’t going to work out & you know it, sometimes it’s good to let them pursue it for a bit so that they can see why it won’t work or why it’s not best for their business instead of you just telling them it’s a dud yourself.
They’re coming to your for help, not to have you do it for them.
2. Not Only Say “Yes”… Say “Yes And…”
When you’re presented with a not so great idea from someone & they’re really excited about it, how do you go about letting them know that their idea doesn’t really make sense or isn’t going to work out the way they’d like without taking over or making them feel incompetent?
You say, “That’s a good idea! Have you thought about trying this too.”
Not only are you building up confidence in them to come up with ideas & find a way to make them work, but you’re also offering some help & direction when they’re off track by contributing to them.
This is a combination of agreeing & contributing. You’re not telling them to forget their idea & do something different instead, but you’re letting them go with their idea & you’re giving them some help along the way.
Sharing resources, encouragement, & direction is what mentoring is all about.
3. Make Statements
When you’re working with someone on an idea they have, you need to ask questions about their idea. Questions are good. It gets them thinking. It helps them fill in the gaps of their idea, but it can also be tiring & draining to constantly answer questions & sort through the idea.
Not only are they having to think a lot to answer all of your questions, but they’re probably going to start second guessing themselves & their idea as well because they feel overwhelmed with things they haven’t thought of… especially if you’re asking them a lot of hard-to-answer questions.
Instead of asking questions only, mix in some statements that will answer the question for them instead of them answering it. This way, you’re being helpful to them & adding more value to the conversation. They’re looking for your ideas as well. They want you to share your knowledge & add to their idea.
Like I said before, there’s a fine line here. This is their idea. You want them to do the majority of it on their own. You’re there to help them along & direct them… not to do it all for them. Ask questions but help them out by making statements too.
4. There Are No Mistakes… Only Opportunities
Obviously, no one is perfect & things don’t always go as planned. Not all ideas work out, but that doesn’t mean that working together wasn’t beneficial to you both. You’ve both learned something.
When an idea doesn’t go exactly the way you wanted, don’t throw it out the window. Talk about it together. Figure out where the problem was & see if there’s a way to do something different to make it work. Don’t scrap the idea & start over from scratch.
This is how businesses are build… on good ideas & bad, on things that work & things that don’t. There are always more than one way to go about accomplishing something. As a mentor, you can help the person you’re working with see the benefits in this attempt & help direct them to a different route while encouraging them to not give up on their vision & to try again.
Guiding & Growing
Mentoring someone else is taking them under your wing & gently guiding them. Yes they need to learn on their own. Yes there will be mistakes made. But in the end, they have someone to talk things through with & to be encouraged by. Is that someone you?
~* Thanks to Tina Fey for the awesome business tips that inspired this post!